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Thursday, May 05, 2005

Whatever happened to carpe diem?

As the semester draws to a close and teachers pile on the assignments, I find myself less and less motivated to do any actual schoolwork. Every day. I pick up my textbooks and vow to retain all the information they hold. Day after day, I run my errands, I pay my bills, I practice my networking skills. Instead, I'd much rather be lounging by the pool, partying the nights away or taking that much-needed power nap.

I don't do these things, however, because I know it would be detrimental to my GPA and therefore my future, but all the stress makes me wonder, “Why?”

And for what? For Someday.


What about now? Whatever happened to carpe diem?

It seems like so many of us, myself included, are so focused on the future that we forget today. Our lives are overcome by the competition of grades, the who's who of TCU, and that ever-nearing light of the real world.

For me, I forget to focus on life's simple pleasures, like midnight "Will & Grace" with the girls or baking cinnamon rolls on Sunday nights with my best friend. I forget to focus on life's simple displeasures like losing my ID card or when people say hateful things about me. For me, these things seem superficial. Insignificant. For me, these things are not stable. These things are not real. These things will not help my future, but these are my memories.

I can't help but wonder, through my determination for such a perfect future, am I watching my life pass me by?

Ashley Adelman


  • Ashley,
    What you do today, determines who you will be tomorrow. Seize the day, every day! Work hard and play hard too! It is a nice balance. The holding tank of university life will soon be over. You will enter a holding tank of the corporate world. Seize the day, Ashley! Keep a reservoir of happiness and let it bubble up every single day. Life is to good to be missed! But make those one year, five year and ten years goals also. Shoot for a target and stay on track. Best to you on your finals! Do not be too hard on yourself.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:38 AM  

  • Life is too good to be missed... by village idiots who do not know the difference between to, two and too.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:39 AM  

  • Carpe diem may be what you are missing when you party with the friends and hang at the pool. The moment you sieze should be the one that has the most lasting effect. I suggest hard work and study in your chosen field. You will have plenty of time for play later. In Chiropractic school, we said "carpe osteon", or "sieze the bone".

    By Blogger Mark Homer For State Representative, at 2:43 PM  

  • I'm going to disagree with my esteemed co-correspondents on this one. As a former PTA President who regularly represented my kids' school to the school board... and now an avid homeschooling mother.... sometimes a student just isn't ready to learn certain things on someone else's timetable. If you're feeling overwhelmed, take some time off and learn, naturally, through work or travel or service to your community or Peace Corp or or or....

    You can always return for a degree. But many students trudge through that 4-yr degree and find themselves on the other side without a clue what they want to do with it.

    I'm a big proponent of being on my own educational timetable, and not someone else's. I'm the one who has to live with the results of my choices.

    Been where you are. Done what you're doing. Best wishes,


    By Blogger :), at 11:48 PM  

  • I do not necessarily disagree with Gala, but it depends on the individual. I had to take a year off from studies to work. I paid my way, was too poor to take the most direct route. I did get a degree, but it took five years instead of four. Unfortunately, the vast majority of students who start college, never finish. So I am one of those "put your hand to the plow and don't look back kind of people". Too easy to derail the process. Alot of people out there are university drop outs. So we have the lovely Ms. Lena Guerrero, here in Texas (How many of you remember that flap?)who if memory serves, was railroad commissioner, until she was found to be a fraud on her resume. I think she was just six hours shy of her degree.
    Here is my bottom line on higher education: it gives more choices in life, proven to give upward mobility. Stay the course Ashley and carpe diem, when the degree is awarded.

    To Gala: Homeschooling is a noble thing. Good luck to the future success of your progeny. Our seventh grade homeschooler will be at Univ. Dallas this summer taking a reading and study skills course. Tested out almost ninth grade in math in fifth grade. Thanks belong to Dad, with his Economics degree. We have him tested each year with the Stanford, pay a certified teacher, and he does great.


    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 6:36 AM  

  • To Tammy ~~
    Glad to talk to you about this.

    My 14-yr old homeschooler is taking culinary classes in Portland (Oregon) with aspirations of being a chef. He'll begin taking basic college courses next year. I don't test him beyond what the state mandates (the rules differ between TX and OR.) My children suffered through Standardized testing while attending schools in TX for years. Never again. We have a House Bill currently winding its way through the OR legislature to abolish the 4-time mandatory testing laws. I'm actively lobbying for this bill. What we study is determined by interest and need, totally regardless of what the State Board of Ed mandates for the schools.

    My almost 12-yr old homeschooler is completing 9th-grade level math. She also speaks French and plays both piano and guitar. She enjoys writing her own music. She is a happy and enthusiastic student and aspires to own a small business.

    The confidence my children have is a direct result of our decision three years ago to homeschool. As a Democrat, I'm aware that the majority of my party favors a strong Public School system.... and I'm willing to go along with it since I understand that most parents aren't ready to take on homeschooling. But there's not a day goes by that we aren't certain our family made the correct decision.

    Statistically you are right that college opens financial opportunities. I disagree that it is a proven upward-mobilizer. I believe those are separate items: Students of all educational methods can move up if it's in their hearts to do so. And to be honest with you, my assessment of a person's success in life has more to do with their happiness and fulfillment rather than how much money they make.

    So "upwardly mobile" isn't what our family values. "Inwardly satisfied" is our goal.

    Good luck with your homeschooling. You have my admiration for making that choice.


    By Blogger :), at 5:44 PM  

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